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Monday, April 27, 2009

#2 Romance in the Raw


My Top 10 Favorable Traits
1. Aware, spiritually connected, leads by his own intuition (internal guidance)
2. Self love, self respect, and a good sense of self
3. Healthy
4. Active/ Athletic/ High energy
5. Passionate entrepreneur connected to his purpose
6. Great sense of humor, laughs w/ life
7. Honest, open, compassionate communicator
8. Attractive
9. Optimistic & proactive
10. Humble & grateful

My Top 10 Least Desirable Traits
1. Religious, condemning, self righteous (it is quite possible to be religious and never experience spirituality, and it is quite possible to be spiritual and never experience religion.)
2. Unhealthy- smoker, drinker, junk food eater, & sedentary
3. A follower- no sense of self
4. Pessimistic, reactive
5. Dishonest, liar, poor communicator
6. "9-5" clocks in and out of an unfulfilling job
7. Unattractive
8. Easily offended/ victim mentality
9. Inactive, low energy, sleeps excessively
10. Boastful, proud, arrogant

13 comments:

Aimee (bitt) said...

I love the lists you made. I'm passing them on to my single friends. I think it's a good idea to make it.

Have you been on this site before?

http://www.veggiedate.org/

Lori Painter said...

Aimee- thanks for the link...I'll check it out ;)

Joshua said...

Mastery Of Love. Changed my life! Great book ! The story of the dinner just popped in to my mind again. I am going to have to go read that part of the book again. Thanks for the reminder

LoL Kudos to you ! Yes, FUCK THE GAMES! Just connect ;o)

Your go with the flow comment on your Romance In The Raw blog reminded me of one of our first MusAttraction songs so I thought I’d send you a copy. Check your e-mail ! :O)

I agree that it makes sense to surround yourself with a man or people who have many of the same values as you...it naturally makes it easier to live them for yourself. That said, Love knows no top 10 or bottom 10 lists…...

Love = Full Acceptance

Emily said...

Lori ~
I just saw this & thought you may be interested:
http://www.detoxtheworld.com/blog-detail.php?ID=73
:) Emily.

Joshua said...

Hi Lori,

So I saw this blog last night just before resting for the day. My subconscious must have went to work because as I am awaking this morning it's hitting me like a ton of bricks!

You have your top 10 and bottom 10 lists but there is something TOTALLY missing.

It can be tough for single moms to recognize (I grew up with one). Single moms often have so much to do for themselves and for their children that they forget to ask....”wait.....what do I actually have to offer a man?” What do I have to give to this man I describe? What would attract a man of this caliber? Am I it? Do I want to be it?

Not once in your list do I see any mention of a man capable of receiving your gifts which suggests to me, you are looking for relationships for selfish reasons instead of giving.

In my experience, healthy relationships are for giving and receiving (not just receiving) and if healthy relationships are for giving too, it seems to me that a Top 10 favorable trait (if not an entire 50% of your list)would be that you Favor a man who “Can Receive My Gifts", (Ie. 1. A man who can receive and appreciate my nurturing ability. 2 A man who appreciates the gifts I can bring (Ie. Raw Food). 3. A man who is healed and enlivened by my spirit and is inspired by me.)

Get clear on what you have to “give” a man, give it, and you will experience a whole new world! ;0)

My Top 10 Favorable Traits
1. Aware, spiritually connected, leads by his own intuition (internal guidance)
2. Self love, self respect, and a good sense of self
3. Healthy
4. Active/ Athletic/ High energy
5. Passionate entrepreneur connected to his purpose
6. Great sense of humor, laughs w/ life
7. Honest, open, compassionate communicator
8. Attractive
9. Optimistic & proactive
10. Humble & grateful

Joshua said...

Also, you might inquire with a friend of mine I met on a message board through the Authentic Man Program I met a while back. (she gives feed back on what her experience of men are with the Authentic Man program but does more for women)

Meet Shana:

http://www.linkedin.com/pub/5/406/300

http://www.authenticwomanexperience.com/

Lori Painter said...

Joshua- thank you for the perpective. Funny, my next blog is titled "What do I bring to the table" which is exactly what you are talking about. You are on it. :) BTW, thanks for the great song and recommends.

Emily: I love Natalia Rose. I read all her books (3). I found her in 2005. She rocks.

Joshua said...

Alright Lil Miss Latin...let's see what ya got girl...let's see what ya got!!! (vibin to this Black Eyed Peas song I learned about on your blog.)

Aimee (bitt) said...

I took your idea and changed it for meeting "Dr. Right" instead of Mr. Right. Thanks! It's on my blog

cindy said...

You read my mind sweetheart! You are so on target it's wonderful and inspiring to see. Also to see how happy you are.

You're so right. There's raw guys out there. Who knows, also, Marianne Williamson had this tape where she said that we are like broadcasting towers and if we keep our towers covered up it can't broadcast to the other person who has the matching frequency. They may be on the other side of the planet and as long as we don't cover our vibration as long as we send out the signal --which is being our authentic selves-- then it creates the connection.

I'm thinking that raw-foods enterpreneur spiritually aware and growing person is out there for you (and me too, right?) that maybe they haven't yet been lead to raw foods but by the time you meet them have a year at least. Maybe just by us being totally true to our ideals it sets up just the perfect (butterfly wing affect) environment in the world that the tiniest impact of our own vision and determination has a domino affect to support that person.

Williamson also said something like that person will just get on a plane and come to your town as the Universe creates situations to bring two people together.

Rawdating dot com said...

Hi Lori,

Love your videos!

There is a raw dating website that is currently being built for people like you. Check it out:

www.rawdating.com

Please bookmark it as it will hopefully be launched within a month.

Best wishes.

Fortunato said...

Sometimes our minds can be our worst enemies we can weary ourselves with over thinking.

At times it's good to learn to let down the defenses of our souls and let our spirits be our defense.

I personally have found that tapping into that great strength within gives peaceful rest to the soul.

Leaders need to listen to their hearts leading.

We can't be everything to every body all the time we need to stop acting the roles we assume, reconnect with who we really are and truly live.

Anyway that's my subjective two bits contribution that I thought perhaps could be a word in season.

I certainly need to be reminded to relax and learn to ignore the incessant thoughts of my mind.

Jess said...

Wow, your other video led me here, and it's so inspiring to watch this -- you ended up getting exactly what you envisioned! Hurray. Fantastic motivation for us single girls. Hope you have a very happy holiday.